How many times have you slept with an ex girlfriend? More than once, probably. But do you really know how you did it?
Instead of relying on dumb luck, if you still want to have sex with your ex girlfriend, the following methods show you EXACTLY what will make her fall back into your bed again.
But first, why do you want to sleep with your ex?
Are you still trying to get it back? Or are you just looking for one last night, let’s call it an extra night, of crazy, uninhibited sex?
Either way, focus remains the same.
Getting an ex girlfriend to sleep with you can be accomplished through some pretty universal techniques. These are methods that work for both situations, whether you want a relationship with her again or just a “friends with benefits” type of arrangement.
Sex with an ex girlfriend is not only possible, it’s actually easier than you think. Then let’s get started.
Recreate your girlfriend’s original attraction to you
Remember those first few weeks when your ex-girlfriend couldn’t keep her hands off of you?
All those great sexual encounters…every night wrapped in each other’s arms, where neither of them wanted to leave, and where no matter how much sex they had, they just couldn’t get enough of each other?
Well, this golden “honeymoon” phase of the relationship is pretty much the same for everyone. Everything is new, and everything is exciting. They’re still exploring each other’s interests, their likes and dislikes, and yes, that extends to the bedroom, too.
At first, the sex is exciting because both seek to impress each other. Your girlfriend was probably open to a lot of things that later in the relationship became things you had to bring up or even ask for. But at the beginning? You just took those things. Or maybe she offered them to you, freely and without hesitation, because she was just as lusty and eager to impress as you are.
So… make your ex love you again? It’s all about DESIRE. You have to make yourself as desirable as you were in the early stages of your relationship, and I don’t mean just physically.
Setting the stage to make her want you again
One of the best ways to get your ex girlfriend back in bed with you is the “buddy” approach. With this method, you want to appear as if you want to be friends with your ex, and nothing more.
Yes, I know you actually DO want more, but for now, you’ll have to put that aside. The path to getting back into bed with her is through friendship, because your ex isn’t going to date you if he thinks you’re still hurting from the breakup.
Tell her you love her? BIG MISTAKE. Tell her you still love her? Your ex is not going to approach you with a 10 foot pole. What needs to happen first, before anything else, is that you have to be totally okay with the breakup.
Tell him that the breakup is a “good idea.” Tell him you’re totally okay with that. Laugh about it. Take lightly the fact that they couldn’t get along.
- “Yeah, wow, I’m sorry about the end of our relationship. I really messed it up! (Laughs here) You know the good part though? That we’re better off as friends than girlfriend and boyfriend. I’m glad we finally got along.” We realized that, before we felt resentful and started hating each other.”
What happens here is that you simply put yourself on your girlfriend’s TEAM. You’ve aligned yourself with her interests.
you are in it side now.
Your girlfriend now sees you as someone she can trust. She’s no longer worried that you’re trying to win her back. She is no longer wary of your motives, because you have not only accepted the end of the relationship, but you are also signaling how much you agree with her.
Friends with Benefits – How to have sex with your ex
Now at this point you have to do something else; makes you desirable again. And you do it with three things:
1) Start dating other girls again
This, more than anything else you can do, will instantly make your ex reevaluate you as a couple. And not only as a boyfriend, but also as a potential sexual partner.
Dating other girls shows your ex that you are desirable. You are a commodity that you once had and threw away, but suddenly someone else is now interested in it.
Don’t worry about getting serious, all you need is a few dates. It can be fun dates, wild dates, it can be with girls you would love to date or girls/friends from work that you have a good time with. Whatever happens, have fun. Because when your ex sees you having fun with other girls, she will remember when she had fun with you.
2) Stay active and pick up new hobbies
A boy who is interested in things is always interesting. So get out there. Start a new hobby or pick up an old one. Join a hockey or softball team. Stay active and happy, so when your ex sees you doing this, he immediately starts to wonder why he’s missing out.
Self-actualization is a powerful aphrodisiac. When a guy is motivated and can have fun, a girl will be attracted to him for those things.
3) Start dating friends and enjoy your single life
Nobody likes to be left behind. So when you’re running around and having fun with your friends, all without your ex-girlfriend on your arm? She will wonder if she maybe she was holding you back.
One thing all women hate is being wrong. When you’re out and about having fun, hanging out with other people and doing new things? Your ex’s entire opinion of you will change. He will see you as attractive again. High value. All of a sudden you’re a totally awesome guy who looks like he’s completely gone. And hey, why the hell did she dump you in the first place?