A woman’s basic need is for acceptance. A woman needs to feel loved and appreciated unconditionally. When God created woman, he made her from a man’s rib so that she would be acceptable to him. After God presented it to him, Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh,” meaning that he fully and unconditionally accepted it. Therefore, it is true that throughout the centuries, women have sought acceptance from men and this is a vital part of her life.
From the moment a girl is born, it is important that the male figures of the family, that is, the father and the brothers, accept her, love her and pamper her. Any form of rejection at this tender age does very serious damage to this girl’s personality. It also follows that, later in life, any form of rejection of a woman by the men in her life, be it boyfriend, husband or lover, also has very adverse effects.
Having studied some of the effects of rejection in a woman’s life, I have classified them into the following three main ones:
Low self-esteem
When a woman is rejected, her self-esteem takes a serious hit. My English thesaurus describes self-esteem as: self-worth, sense of worth, confidence, or self-respect. So one can imagine what this woman goes through when she loses her sense of worth or self-respect. It is common to find young girls living on the streets, engaging in prostitution, crime and drugs. They grow up as reckless women who are condemned to the dustbins of society. Even when a girl grows up being accepted by the men in her family but she is not accepted later in life by a lover, boyfriend or husband. Life can take a turn and we find women who grew up in respected families, well educated or with meaningful careers, but who are reckless or weakened due to lack of self-respect.
wasted time and money
Women spend a lot of time and money trying to look good or trying to buy acceptance. Thousands of dollars are spent every day on fashionable clothing, some of which are worn once and thrown away. A lot of money is spent on cosmetics, perfumes, jewelry, hairstyles, and face lifts. All of this is in the hope that men will notice and accept them. Please don’t get me wrong, there is a need for basic hygiene and makeup to look good and a need for nice clothes that fit well; but there is the other extreme that I am talking about; the obsession. Some women virtually live very artificial lives in front of the mirror or in shopping malls, just to look good. A lot of time and money is spent, and in most cases, men do not notice or realize, but they simply do not take these women seriously. When they need meaningful relationships, they go back to basics and choose the most basic or simple woman.
Stolen peace and joy
It follows then that when a woman is preoccupied with seeking acceptance and concentrates her efforts on this one issue, she is not at peace. She robs you of satisfaction in life or inner joy. It is not easy to be at peace or happy when one feels rejected because it creates a void in the inner man.
As I thought long and hard about this aspect of life, I realized that rejection is a woman’s worst enemy because it makes her lose self-respect, waste time and money, and lose peace and joy. It is also true that a woman needs to be loved and accepted by the men in her life to complete God’s original plan when he created them. It is also vital that women return to her creator to inform her of instances of rejection and allow her to restore them to his integrity according to his original plan.