Positive self-motivation is the inner drive that puts optimism into action to win in life. Winners are driven by desire! A winner will have a desire to enhance her own personal development. There was never a consistent winner in any walk of life who didn’t have that burning desire to win internalized. Winners know that the basic axiom of behavior in life is the fact that you and I become what we think about the most. You and I are motivated every day and moved by our currently dominant thoughts. In other words, we move only in the direction of what we stop at.
Everyone in life is motivated, a little or a lot, positively or negatively, even the decision to do nothing is a decision based on motivation. Motivation is a force that moves us to action and springs from within the individual. Motivation is defined as a strong tendency toward or away from an object or situation, and it can be learned and developed, it doesn’t have to be innate.
Positive self-motivation puts you in the driver’s seat of your life
Anyone who wants to improve their personal development has to, one way or another, ignite their own motivation. For too long it has been wrongly assumed that motivation is extraneous, that it can be driven from the outside through pep talks, contests or rallies. Such activities provide concepts of education, encouragement and inspiration for people to activate their creative powers, but only if they want to and only internalize it.
That is the secret, lasting change is only effected when the need for change is understood and internalized. Until the reward or incentive has been interrupted and internalized, it has no motivating power. So the real winners in life are the people who have developed, as a result of a general attitude of positive expectation or optimism, strong positive self-motivation. This is key to enhancing your own personal development.
In other words, they have developed this ability to move in the direction of the goals they set, or the roles they want to play, and will tolerate little or no distractions to move toward those goals. In the face of all discouragement, mistakes, and setbacks, this inner drive keeps you moving upward toward personal fulfillment. Motivation is a highly emotional state, and the great mental and physical motivators of life, such as survival, hunger, thirst, revenge, and love, are all charged with emotion. The two key emotions that dominate all human motivation with opposite but nearly equal results are fear and desire.
Fear is the most powerful negative motivator of all, fear is the great driver and the great inhibitor, fear restricts, squeezes and scares, forces and ultimately thwarts plans and defeats goals. Fear can destroy a person’s personal development and inhibit any attempt to improve it. Desire, on the contrary, is like a strong positive magnet, it attracts, reaches, opens, directs, encourages and achieves goals.
Fear and desire are polar opposites and lead to alternative destinations in life, fear always looks to the past and desire looks to the future. Fear vividly reproduces disturbing experiences of failure, pain, disappointment, and unpleasantness and is a stubborn reminder that the same experiences are likely to recur. Desire, on the other hand, triggers the memory of pleasure and success, excites the need to reproduce them and create new winning experiences. The prison words that consume the scary person are probably: I have to, I can’t, I see risk and desire. But the desire says I want, I can, I see an opportunity and I will. Desire is that emotional state between where you are and where you want to be. In order to have successful personal development, we have to learn to deal with both fear and desire.
In life, winners know that all their actions will be controlled by their dominant thoughts at the time and that they cannot stop at the reverse of an idea. That’s why you can’t lose weight if you keep thinking about how fat you are, you can’t quit smoking if you look like a smoker, and that’s why you can’t get rich if you worry about the bills. Winners see risk as opportunity, see the rewards of success upfront, and don’t see the penalties of failure. They see personal development as a positive step towards a better life. Individuals dominated by fear, they cannot act with choice or positive intention, they go through life reacting defensively. People dominated by stress are unable to change the world in which they live, the world in which they live alters them.
It is a strange and sobering fact that what we fear most we do ourselves. Burning desire is the perfect mental anecdote for fear and despair. Desire triggers activity that burns excess adrenaline in the system. It keeps the mind busy and the hope of achievement alive. High achievers in life have strong personal development skills and have a high degree of motivation. The enduring power that moves you to action comes from within. Success in life is not reserved for the few, success depends almost entirely on drive and persistence.
We really need to learn and remember how to really develop this winning action quality of positive self-motivation. It is important to remember that everyone is motivated, whether a little or a lot, positively or negatively, and that motivation is not optional, even the decision to do nothing is motivation. Each of us is motivated by our fears or our desires. Fear is inevitable because it can get you out of danger and save your life, it can save a child’s life, but as a habit or a way of life, fear has an extremely destructive side effect.
Fear is a red light that can stop dangerous behavior, but desire is the green light that allows you to move toward your goals. Therefore, your most valuable exercise in developing positive self-motivation is to try to replace fear motivation with desire motivation. Fortunately, since fear and desire are two sides of the same coin, this is not as difficult as it seems. The fear of poverty can be replaced by the desire for wealth.
The fear of disease can be replaced by the desire for good health, the fear of failure can be replaced by the desire to succeed. All these actions must be present to achieve better personal development. Lack of effort is the same as giving in, when there is no real intent to seek improvement, there can be no improvement to be enjoyed. Don’t let the fear of failure stop you on your way to further personal development, hold on to the desire for total success and true fulfillment in life. Winners realize that they are motivated by their current dominant thinking, so their focus should be on the reward of success they seek, rather than the potential penalty of failure. Make desire your currently dominant thought and it will fuel you with the motivating energy for success in every area of your daily life.
Behind every winner is a burning desire, optimism and enthusiasm toward the reward of success rather than the penalty of failure, toward the solution instead of the problem, and toward the answer instead of the question. Behind every winner is a burning desire, absolute need, and never-ending drive for fully enhanced personal development.
To follow are some action reminders towards positive self-motivation!
First of all, replace the word can’t with can in everyday vocabulary, it can be applied to about 95% of the challenges you face.
Then replace the word “try” with “will” in your everyday vocabulary, this is a form of semantics and it just establishes your new attitude of insisting on the things you will do instead of the things you plan to try with that built-in excuse. in advance for possible failures. Focus all your attention and energy on achieving the goal you are at right now, forget about the consequences of failure. Keep your drive for personal development at the forefront of your mind.
Failure is just a temporary change in direction to set you on the road to your next success. Remember that you usually get what you think of the most. Next, make a list of your five most important needs or wants, and right next to each one, write down what the reward or benefit is when you achieve it. Look at this list before you go to bed each night and upon waking each morning. Always provide solution-oriented feedback when people tell you about their problems. When the problems are yours, focus on the immediate thought… “What is the answer?” Find and talk to one person this week who is doing what you most want to do, and make sure it is someone who is doing it well. This goes for anything, winning or selling, skiing or acting, speaking, managing, or even being a good spouse or parent.
Find an expert, get the facts, do a project to learn all you can about other winners in the field. Take a course in it, receive personal lessons and generate illusion to see yourself mentally enjoying success. Finally, make it a habit for each of your goals to repeat over and over: “I want to, I can, I want to, I can.” The power these steps will have in enhancing your personal development is immeasurable. You will feel empowered, strengthened and successful, nothing can stop you, your achievements will accumulate one after another, you will know what true personal development in action feels like.