I recently went to an exclusive singles party. I was there to do business and I’m not sure what my boyfriend was doing there, but it was wonderful to have him around – he works in Europe and is away for extended periods. It was a good party; the music was excellent, the food excellent and the crowd “classy”.
With just over an hour from the party, I noticed that everyone was gravitating toward one corner of the room. I couldn’t immediately see what was happening from where we were sitting, so I got up to go take a look. Two women, a white blonde and the other black were on the dance floor doing their thing and standing around were what all the handsome men at the party looked like, except mine of course, who was sitting in another corner talking and laughing animatedly . – He has me, what can I say?
Regardless, these two women were obviously having fun and having the time of their lives. But what I found quite interesting was that both women were what society calls “plus size” and not exactly the “plus size” type of model. They were two normal-looking women who laughed and flirted gracefully with the male moths illuminated by their glow. They were getting all the male attention from men that we normally think wouldn’t be attracted to women their size, especially when there were so many other small, pretty women in the room.
What was your secret? Two words: SEXUAL MAGNETISM
Whether you know it or not, the way you view yourself sexually affects every aspect of your life. It affects how you walk down the street, how you talk to your boss, how you respond to stress, how you relate to others, and even how you pursue success.
People with a poor sexual image of themselves tend to overcompensate in those areas in which they are most confident. They are in a constant drive for achievement and external approval. They often try to belittle or downplay their sexual expectations and tend to be reluctant to acknowledge or express their emotions. Extroverts over project and exaggerate their sexual desirability. They try to assert themselves and their presence by doing everything in a “larger than life” style. But his “macho” or “sexy” self-image is the opposite of what is happening on the outside.
People blessed with enormous sexual charm and charisma, on the other hand, don’t flaunt it in low necklines or butt hugging jeans. They may not even have a charismatic personality and are not necessarily seductive, but wherever they go, both men and women fall under the spell of their seductive aura. They attract the opposite sex like bees to honey. It’s just hard to resist receiving a low-key look, and sometimes we don’t even know why. These people do not seem to age and race does not influence the power of their magnetism. In a way, they attract attention, affection, and respect without asking. They seem to be really happy.
So what is this mystical thing that we call sexual magnetism?
Sexual magnetism is often confused with “sexy” or “exotic”, whatever these words mean, and that is why many think that it is something you do, something you buy with money, something that a sexual partner gives you or even something you get from traveling to some “exotic” part of the world.
Sexual magnetism is not about a perfect body, bigger breasts, or a bigger male organ. If you don’t believe me, tell someone you think has large breasts or a large organ that you don’t think is that big anyway and watch your self-image take a nosedive. Not to mention, there are some men and women who are less gifted in the appearance department but exude sexual magnetism.
Sexual magnetism is not about what you use or the type of car you drive. Wearing a little secret number under clothing or driving a fancy car can help boost your sexual confidence, but only when you already have it. Take off your lingerie (you’ll eventually have to take it off anyway) or your car and all that’s left is the same inappropriate and insecure little self.
Sexual magnetism is not something you get in Mexico, Thailand, or on an African safari. I know some of you are thinking who are you kidding, Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie got their African “juju”. You can go to these “exotic” places with a tense, determined and repressed attitude about sex and come back even more confused and paranoid because the “sexual openness” you found there will have shaken your beliefs about sexuality and sex.
Sexual magnetism is not about learning sexual techniques or bedroom tricks, although knowing what to do in the bedroom, like lingerie or the sports car, can boost your sexual confidence, is not what sexual magnetism is all about. Sexual magnetism doesn’t even necessarily have to do with sex.
Sexual magnetism is more than sex appeal. People with great looks, incredible talent, immense power, extreme wealth, above-average intelligence, and even notorious “bad guys” may have sex appeal, but they don’t necessarily have sexual confidence and they don’t necessarily have magnetism. sexual.
Sexuality is about general feelings of well-being. From birth to death, we are sexual beings with sexual bodies, whether or not we are involved in a sexual act or behavior. Sexuality is a natural, healthy and lifelong part of being human. It is a comprehensive and powerful influence on our mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual well-being.
Sexual magnetism is about being COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR OWN SEXUAL BODY AND SEXUAL ROLE. It is the dynamic, free and spontaneous response of your own inner man or woman. It’s about power, and that power comes from knowing who you really are, what is right for you, and what you can bring to any encounter, be it sexual, social, or business.
Sexual magnetism is about COMFORTABLE AROUND THE OPPOSITE SEX. It is about facing any situation knowing that you ‘rock’, expressing your opinion knowing that it will be highly valued by others, asking for what you want without fear of rejection or failure. It is about being fully present in body, mind and spirit. – moment by moment.
Sexual charisma is like a MAGNET. If you have it, you will attract people to you.
So how do you get sexual charisma?
Develop a positive attitude towards sex
Unlearn your guilt for your sexual body and your sexual desires. Give yourself permission to truly celebrate what is inside of you and develop the emotional and social skills you need to be able to share your real self with your sexual partner and with the rest of the world.
Know your sexual body
The best insight you can have when it comes to sexuality is how your body responds to your sexual, social, or business environment. If you have been living in your head, return to your body and inhabit it completely. It is not what the body can do for you, but what you can do with the body that gives you the sexual magnetism you crave.
Develop your own individual style
Your sexual magnetism is a unique and individualized expression of yourself. Knowing that you are uniquely and wonderfully created is saying, “I like who I am and I know you will like me too.” Develop the kind of attitude that will get people excited just by thinking of talking to you or seeing you again.
Be spontaneous and unpredictable
Spontaneity and unpredictability are the lifeblood of sexual charisma and it’s what keeps other people fascinated by you. Work on developing spontaneity in your emotional manifestations by taking actions at each moment that are prompted by your inner awareness. Let go of machinations, intrigues, pretensions, and self-doubt. Access your subconscious and free your imagination. Let go of your hair and discover your wild side.
Learn to enjoy life
Many of us are too rushed to enjoy life, too confused to be simple, too rich to have enough, too worried to be healthy, too ungrateful to be happy, too fearful to love, and too controlling to be free. Your sexual magnetism depends on your ability to let go and be in the moment. But to enjoy the moment you have to learn to appreciate it. Develop an attitude of gratitude despite and in spite of your current circumstances.
Take an interest in other people
Sexual magnetism is about superior attitude or honking your own horn, it’s about listening and making other people feel comfortable talking about themselves. Strive to be someone who is interested rather than worrying about being interesting.
Surround yourself with good friends
There are few things in this world that can make you feel like a million dollars; a good friend is one of those things. A good friend is that person who gives you the courage and strength to go out and conquer the world. Cultivate many different friendships with both men and women, especially singles. Having lots of friends of the opposite sex is a great way to learn about the opposite sex, it’s better than anything you read in books, which are just other people’s opinions.
Improve your spiritual awareness
The journey to your sexual incarnation is also the journey to your spiritual enlightenment. Sex and the spirit are inseparable. Don’t focus on developing one and ignore the other. When one is neglected, the other will be distorted.
Begin to vibrate this powerful magnetic energy and watch as people suddenly begin to notice and gravitate towards you.