How to make your daily interactions less stressful. How can you make your interactions with others less stressful? Take note of the number of times your sense of emotional well-being was interrupted and you felt stressed enough to have a fit during the day. Was it during a conversation or during a meeting? Was it with family, coworkers, or strangers? Start by figuring out your ratio or percentage of emotional breakdown.
How many times out of 10 encounters or interactions were you so upset that it affected the next activity you had to do? If you have 20 interactions and are significantly emotionally upset, 2 times, then your interrupt ratio was 1 to 10 or 10%. If your outage rate is 5 out of 10, or 50%, then you have a lot of work to do. How can you do this?
Get a stress-free journal or notebook and write down the encounters that upset you emotionally. Unless you have a way to regularly assess your progress throughout your stress management journey, you will not have sustainable success. How can you know your mini daily goals if you don’t evaluate them? Do you regularly have thoughts and conversations that will help you de-stress? Are you reducing or eliminating those situations that predispose you to stressful encounters based on your personality or compass profile? Are you keeping stress out of your relationships and conversations? How can you do that?
Plan ahead and get in the habit of listening intently, so you know when you’re being insulted or disrespected. Determine if you will respond, let it go, or lash out. I generally don’t recommend lashing out because if you lash out, the other person is more likely to lash back as well. This leads to more conversational frustrations and anger.
Instead of lashing out, learn to make strategic adjustments to your conversations. Be patient with yourself. Be prepared to learn from your own mistakes or from your critics. Remember that explanations do not explain anything. Don’t assume that when you explain yourself to others, they will understand. Most of the time they won’t.
Make a list of activities that you consider realistic that will help reduce stress in your daily conversations and interactions. You have to stick to your plan and complete the tasks on your list one after another. If you do this day after day, week after week, you will form habits that will help you gain a better ability to handle expected and unexpected emotional disruptions and stressful encounters without losing your mind.