astromagnetism
Getting along doesn’t mean loving
It’s easy to hear people talk about key Sun sign qualities that are actually based on personal experience. Since 1975 I listen to parties and gatherings; and I realized that most people are talking about their particular Cancer, his dearest friend Leo, or his hated parent Virgo. When you hear people talk about a sun sign, chances are you’ll hear about two or three (at most) close, intimate relationships (hated or loved) they had with those signs. Our shorthand way of reconciling these complex issues is combined with personal experience, artistic interpretation, along with astronomical talks and ancient texts that talk about the signs. A quick way to start a discussion is to argue about the main characteristic of a Sun sign. Undoubtedly, there is no absolute fixity on this subject. However, there are elements of sun signs that, apart from subjective experience, tend to illuminate the way we manifest our character in this earthly realm.
The point of this article:
The intuition of “getting along” –
I’ll cover the other signs in other articles, but the intuition involved in getting along with the various Sun Signs has to do with picking up from each Soul what is the main tune they are playing. What is the main message emanating from your eyes? Find the core of what a sun sign is and then watch it play its song and manifest itself in its particular and unique ways. Once you have a solution for that, ride with them and appreciate them for what they are and see how it plays out in the outside world. So your patience with that perceived reality allows you to envelop them in a bubble of tolerance. All this ends up benefiting you as you make your way in the field of human relations.
These could be called “tricks” to get along. I manage to emphasize, and not emphasize, the words persuade, dissuade, win and argue, dominate or seduce. Those issues are for other times. Getting along is, in a sense, the first thing life asks us to do and, in a way, the hardest thing life asks us to do, especially with certain Sun Signs. So what I’m trying to impart is that you want to “get along” so that you can be well regarded and perhaps even positively reviewed as a friend, peer, associate, subordinate, or superior.
Cancer – “I’m not a crab. It’s just that the beach is the best place for my family.” –
Cancer – the Crab, the Child of the Moon is a complex sun sign. The word “get along” really needs to be emphasized here. They don’t really care that they are easy to get along with, unless they have a vested interest in you, the company, the event. If they have this vested interest, they may charm you to the skies. But that’s only if your family or business is involved. The emphasis on the crab is an easy image to understand. They glide down the beach facing the ocean. They know how to gather resources for their family. And they are smarter than all other animals because on your doorstep, the most resplendent life-producing element on the planet is constantly dropping its tidal waves of vitality right there. The ocean, giver of life.
The Moonchild is a statement about his predictable mood swings. Don’t think of them as unpredictably moody. Think of them as predictably cranky. They go from quarter moon, to half moon, then full, then waning. until the new moon, then crescent. There is a level of certainty there. Your loved ones just have to wait. The problem is, you can’t walk up to a Cancer and ask them what phase of the moon they are in, you just have to smile and wait, and see where they are. But outwardly – They’re like Betty Crocker. They can run a corporation from a phone booth. They are enterprising, hard-working, sweet-tempered and quite intense people. However, that intensity is underground. They are not intense so it will intimidate you. They are intense because they are intense. And they will do everything possible to hide that intensity; often with minimal success.
How do you get along with Cancer? Ask about the family. Ask about the business (often a business endeavor). Don’t say anything negative about their family, or interview them as if you know a secret about their family. The little crab claw will rise up and cut off your nose. Admire Cancer’s family and business endeavors. But don’t be too sugarcoating or you’ll come off as insincere. Cancers hate artifice, insincerity, the appearance of manipulation, and excessive charm. If you’re trying to get along with a Cancer, approach them with an open look of admiration and respect and don’t be weird. Cancer’s hate is creepy, if it seems disrespectful. Cancers are sincere. I love that about them. To get along with your Cancer loved one or friend, don’t try to influence them too much. If they accept you as part of their family, half of what they’ll do is fix your booboo and change your bad habits. Don’t worry, that’s love. Love them for it. Forget if they don’t have the “nice touch”.
Leo: “My claws are for styling my body so I can look good while sunbathing.” –
Yes, Leos are great warriors and fighters, but just like the royal lion, they don’t like to fight as much as they do appear to be great fighters. The Sun rules Leo the Lion, so they are not difficult to get along with. Shine your admiration light on them and they’ll shine back with a bright, appreciative smile. (Think Bill Clinton.) Under the topic of getting along, that will appear to be no problem at all, unless you cross them, or they think you crossed them, or disrespected or ignored them. Then Leo can bite off your head and spit it out in hot-blooded fury. Stay away from the temper. That’s the number one rule for getting along with Leo. Admire, respect and avoid offending. Leo is funny and affectionate and likes to do things for people. If they look good while being great, then that’s all the better.
Leo likes to lead. If they are not in charge, they try to be in charge or appear to be next in line. He keeps seeing a big generous smile that seems to say: “I invented the smile and today I bless you with his greatness.” Leos are fun. Leos are great at parties. Leos are good at giving pats on the back and they love to have a “pride”. It’s quite ironic that the word “pride” has to do with the lion’s offspring, because that’s what his descendants are “proud” of. Your pride then is a reflection of your leadership and strength. When the Sun shines down on you in the heat of midday, is it something other than heat that you are feeling?
Getting along with Leos comes in two phases: 1) Let them smile at you at first and pay your respects and smile back. 2) If you start to think that all that sparkling charm is insincere and cringe when it seems like he doesn’t really care about you, keep smiling and don’t ask him for deep love. Just be happy with the kind of love they give. They won’t stop and pay special attention to you, unless someone else is watching at the same time. Get used to that idea and then give them permission and let them grab your attention. They are good friends to have. They are very bad enemies to have. So do your best.
Virgos: “I am perfect and of service. Let me serve you in my own way and you will be fine.” –
When you meet someone who is “virginal,” you are met with a collection of virtues that almost seem to be at odds with each other. There aren’t too many virgins these days, so imagine someone from an old movie or novel. The Virgo, the Virgin, sees the world a certain way and they see all the rules that go into that world. They try to keep them. They try to help other people to observe those rules and they will serve you with those attempts. Opposite ideas arise when you don’t see the world as they do. Then they criticize you.
Virgin “criticism” as such does not exist for Virgos themselves. They are just straightening you out on the path. How can that be critical, for God’s sake? You’re on this road, you’re about to get off the road, they’re pulling you so you don’t get hurt. That is not criticizing. If you call it criticism, you just don’t get it. That’s the way Virgo sees things. They are not in conflict internally. Internally, you continue to see the world with your clarity. All the confusion and suffering there is because people just don’t understand how to stay on track.
Getting along with Virgos is all about letting them love you and serve you however they want. Do not impose a different view of the world on them. They will start shooting little bits of criticism at you. Remember that when they “criticize” you, they are probably also helping or serving you in some way, so it is very difficult to get angry with them. While they push you around a bit and put you down a bit, remember that they are “virgins”, they are doing everything they can to help you. If you fall out of favor with them, they will tend to label you in your virginal way and label you a “bad person.” If you’re a bad person, it doesn’t mean they hate you, and they probably won’t hurt you much, but they will probably turn up the heat with the heat of their criticism. That’s a sign that they may have given up on you just a little bit. But don’t let that get you down. If it’s important that you get along with a Virgo, it’s easy to get back in their favor as long as you start to behave better. Its purpose is to serve you in its perfection. Try to go back to that place and you will have a good time being served by these virginal guys. Just try to avoid disappointing them.