The common question about parenting is, “What should I do when my children misbehave at the market?” It is disconcerting when young people have seizures, run away, cry, complain or resist in the store. It would be wonderful to have a little booklet called “Being a Parent in Public” that you could use for yourself and pass on to others who need it.
The answer is that you don’t practice your control methodologies in the supermarket. That’s the end of the year quiz! You practice them in the kitchen, the bedroom, the pantry and the terrace. Youth must figure out how to handle frustration at home so they can recognize a negative response at the checkout line. Children who have not figured out how to recognize rectification at home without a terrible mood will hopelessly fail the test when they have a crowd of people.
Young people create examples of relating. It is anticipated. You realize that if you say no to your four-year-old, he is likely to have a fit, or when you give your eight-year-old a lead, he will fight with you, or when you reprimand your thirteen-year-old , blame the issue for others, including yourself.
Every once in a while, people feel like they’ve gotten into a movement and don’t know how to turn off the music. They realize that things shouldn’t happen this way, but it’s hard to implement improvements. These examples are called social agendas and become more embedded in the long run.
Discipline for teens who are disrespectful is most humiliating when you’re out in the open. While at the market, your child begins to compete in the same way that he does at home. In the chapel, your girl responds to you with the same rudeness that you have been seeing for quite some time. These open houses are not the place to work on the social schedule change, at least not until you’ve done some serious homework.
Children’s propensity to relate in a specific way builds over time and often requires a determined push to change. When you recognize the particular problem and then work to make the best decision over and over again. For example, 14-year-old Ricky ignores his mother when she gives him an address. She needs to say the same thing a few times, often with increasing force, before he reacts.
The mother then begins the task by rehearsing this new standard of “come when called” with Ricky. Most of the time she comes, but occasionally she doesn’t, prompting quick treatment. The mother certifies Ricky for his responsiveness when he comes over and once she gets him close to her and gives him guidance, she sees a marked change in his responsiveness. Mom continues to practice the new normal with Ricky several times a day. At that time she practices in and around the rec center. When she feels confident that Ricky has completely changed the related example, her mom tries the new standard in the store or at the chapel with empowering results.