I’m just going to say it right now, I hate clubbing. The music is too loud, there are a lot of creepy guys, and the people on my team always get drunk. Not to mention that the club has a reputation for being one of the most difficult places to pick up women. However, for all the negatives out there, I find myself going there every week. We have Saturday night, that’s where all the hot women are.
Clubbing is what separates the men from the boys. You are one of the guys dancing with women on the floor, or you are on the sidelines with your Crown watching you. It’s hard, but definitely possible.
1. Whoever gets closer, leaves with more numbers
When it comes down to it, clubbing is really just a numbers game. Some women come to the club just to dance with their girlfriends (while dressing like they want all the men to come up to them). It’s hard to rule out which girls are accessible and which are not. The best thing to do is just grab your balls and go for it. If you get turned down, move on to the next girl. And don’t take it personally or let it ruin your night. If you approach a girl, you have a 50% chance of success. If you don’t get close, then you have 0%.
2. It’s about social proof
People judge you not only by what you wear, but also by who you are with. Who is more attractive: the guy with some girls at the bar having drinks with them, or the guy with his friends standing near the wall looking at the dance floor? I always try to bring friends with me when I can. I like to dance with them at first because it allows me to scan the area to see who is there, much better than walking alone.
Most of the women I meet are through people I already know at the club. After you start going there for a while, you’ll meet more people and start noticing that a lot of the same groups go every week. When I walk in, I greet everyone I know, and they usually bring a few friends. I am introduced and the game begins, there is no need for the approach phase.
3. What to wear
Many clubs are strict when it comes to the way you dress when you walk into the club. My friend walks into this club all the time wearing black converse, but he can’t walk into another club wearing the same thing.
The “safe” outfit: black oxfords, dark socks, dark jeans, a button down dress shirt (the top 1-2 buttons are undone and you can roll the sleeves up slightly below the elbows).
You can walk into any club wearing this and you won’t look “bad”. But if you read my article on peacock, then you know that you want to look a little different from the standard. Personally, I like to wear a t-shirt with an interesting blazer.
I know this is common sense, but shower and use some antiperspirant before you head out. Also put on some decent cologne because you’re going to get close when you dance. My two favorites are Issey Miyake and Burberry Brit. If you don’t have a cologne, ask a friend to help you pick one out at Sephora or Macy’s.
4. Have a good wingman
Women are never alone in the club. In my opinion, the best goals are when two girls are alone. You can approach them by yourself, but the girl you’re with isn’t going to let her friend dance with you. That’s where having a good wingman can come in handy. Wingmates can also encourage you to get closer and help you recover. I remember once we had a rapprochement that went wrong. Then my wingman said to me, “Man, those bitches are ugly anyway, let’s find someone else.” We keep going and meet even better women later.
The golden rule is that whoever approaches the girls and picks them up, gets the first choice. So don’t complain about getting the fat girl if your friend made the moves ;).
5. Don’t drink too much
Approach -> Talk -> Dance -> Get her phone number -> Go somewhere with her.
You approach women with whatever opener you have. You talk to her a little bit and get her involved with her. When a song that I like comes on, I tell him that I love these songs. “Let’s dance” and she takes her hand to the dance floor.
The dance floor is something that comes with experience and is hard to put into words. But basically you make small inroads towards it and see what its limits are. I’ve had success making out with women on the dance floor, but most of them just want to dance on this stage. After dancing I take her back to where my friends are and we all drink. Talk to her some more and get her phone number. The clubs usually close at 2 or 3 in the morning and I always go out to eat with my friends, so I invite her. After that, the rest is up to you.
Nightclubs can be intimidating for anyone going there for the first time. But like all things, you will get better with experience.