Afterplay, the post-coital counterpart to foreplay, is one of the most important, yet surprisingly neglected, aspects of the intimate relationship.
If you search for foreplay on the internet, you will easily find a lot of information about it. However, if you search for this term, the information will be scarce. In fact, afterplay (and afterplay) is not yet a keyword in most dictionaries. More disappointing still, there is no trace of it in major online encyclopedias like Wikipedia.com and Answers.com to date. This may explain why it is a new concept for many people, especially men.
However, this should not undermine its importance. If there is no after play, the intimate relationship will be unbalanced. And that is why pre and post games are considered equally important. In this article, I will try to bridge this gap. I will first describe after the game and then explain why it is an important practice in the relationship.
The three parts of making love.
To have a successful sexual experience, couples typically need to engage in the following three basic parts: foreplay, penetration, and afterplay. It is more or less like the introduction, the body and the conclusion of a book or an article. It is also comparable to the stages of human development. When you are a child, you are allowed to do certain things and others are forbidden; Similarly, in bed, you should start by teasing your partner and should not go beyond this point. After childhood comes adulthood with all its vigor and adventurous expeditions. And finally, we get older and want to relax gradually. Likewise, you shouldn’t just roll over and start sleeping, and perhaps snoring, after ejaculation. This is because you’ve lifted your partner up high for the last two parts of intercourse, and now you also need to slowly and gently lower her down until she hits the ground again, not suddenly drop her down!
How can I do that?
After playing it is about kissing, caressing, hugging, pampering, complementing and any other act that shows your partner that you are still interested in her and that your interest has not suddenly decreased. In other words, show her that she is a love and life partner that you are passionate about, not just a sexual partner that you are not interested in after your passing desire.
You should spend some time doing this. It should be as long as the previous games. Usually it should be around 10-20 minutes. However, this figure is a mere approximation. People are different and you need to keep watching your partner to decide when enough is enough.
There is a symmetrical relationship between foreplay and postplay. To illustrate, foreplay begins with a light kiss or touch, and gradually increases in intensity. On the contrary, the beginning of after the game, because it is immediately after ejaculating, it is tense, like kissing passionately and hugging tightly, and then gradually decreases. Quite simply, since intimate intercourse shouldn’t start with the penetration part, it shouldn’t end there either.
Why is afterplay important?
In addition to the above, afterplay is believed to help shorten the foreplay part of the next sexual session. To explain, afterplay will help you achieve a positive sexual experience. This will make him long for the next time he is with you in bed to repeat this experience. In other words, it will prepare her psychologically for more “lovemaking” in the future.
Another advantage of afterplay is its ability to make up for your shortcomings. Are you looking for a quick and easy solution for your premature ejaculation? Do you have any problems reaching orgasm? Do any of you suffer from low libido? Try afterplay to compensate for your helplessness emotionally.
To conclude, men tend to focus on the action part, the middle part, of the intimate relationship. However, women tend to enjoy foreplay and afterplay more. Better communication between partners can help improve understanding of each other’s needs and wants.